Blog 13:  Maybe, just maybe . . . your capacity is greater than you think

i became a grandfather for the first time this past week and have come to learn that love is limitless.   i am completely surprised at how much extra love i have found for this little one.  Other grandparents had told me you will be besotted as a grandparent, but this has taken me by surprise.  i have found my capacity to love has grown in such a short time.  No one in my circle is loved any less.  i have discovered we have the capacity to love more.  Love is not a finite commodity.

In the middle of a series on trying to build back your confidence, taking a pause to realise that perhaps we have more capacity than we think we have is encouraging.   

So, if love isn’t finite, if we have a capacity to love more . . . so what?  It’s raised three questions for me, and i invite you to share these reflections to increase your confidence and capacity . . . to be better human beings and help you deliver better outcomes at work and home. 

First, if i have capacity to love more, what else could that do?  Can i stretch that even more?  Could i be more generous, more trusting, more forgiving?  Can i be more compassionate, more attentive, more engaging with the other?  This little one coming along has made me feel like i can lift a weight i have never lifted before.  i don’t love anyone else any less, i have just found a whole lot more in my heart for this new little person.  It’s making me ask the question, how much further can i stretch this heart?  There is obviously much more of me that i can give.  How about you? 

And this leads me to a second question.  What holds me back from loving more, from being more generous, compassionate, forgiving . . . a better listener?  Where else do i limit myself?  i recognise my answer to that question lay in my invisible scripts.  We talked about invisible scripts in blog 10 and 11.  What fears lay deep inside us?  Are there anxieties that hold me back or could it be about confidence?  Maybe i am too task oriented to give my life to others.  Or maybe my life is too full and i just need margins.  i need to keep looking for those blind spots that haunt me and keep me from better connection.  How about you? 

The third question this little person’s entrance into my life has raised for me is  . . . where else may i have untapped capacity?  If i have found i can love more, that love is limitless not a finite commodity, what else can be further stretched?  If i could love more then . . . could i be more creative, give more affirmations or learn more?  Within our uniqueness is a capacity to grow and serve others in ways yet to be explored.   How about you? 

i thought this blog was going to be an interruption to the mini-series on confidence but as i come to a close, i recognize it’s all about confidence . . . realizing there is much more in you and i than we thought.  It took a little person to make me realise that. 

How about you?  Is there more in you to be realized too? 

We’ll finish off the second part of last weeks blog on confidence and 10 practical things you can do today to build it back. Next week.  Talk to you then.

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